Friend-Bullies

Have you ever had a friend that puts you down or makes you feel stupid in front of a group? I like to refer to them as friend-bullies. They do the same thing that bullies do but since we’re friends with them and close to them, we don’t realize it as much. It’s important that you don’t let these people put you down and make you feel bad. They are supposed to be your friend and should help bring you up, not tear you down.

I know it seems like you can’t do anything because they’re your friend and you don’t want to ruin your friendship but these relationships are toxic and you should get rid of them.

The first step when dealing with a friend-bully is to say something, if they make you uncomfortable or make you feel bad about yourself, tell them to stop. The second step is to start distancing yourself from them and don’t rely on them as much. If it still doesn’t help and they still manage to tear you down, cut off ties. Explain that this is a situation that is bad for you personally and you need space to grow emotionally and mentally and you can’t be around someone who constantly brings you down. Then either that person will change their behavior or they will show your true colors and you’ll see that you don’t really need them.

Don’t let yourself be used by people claiming to be a friend. Stand up for yourself and do what’s right for you. Always stay strong and do what’s best for you and your health. Much love. xoxo~ Sloan